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Jaclyn Friedman is an educator, activist, and creator of three hit books: Yes Means Yes: Visions of Female Sexual Power and a World Without Rape (one of Publishers’ Weekly’s Top 100 Books of 2009), What You Really Really Want: The Smart Girl’s Shame-Free Guide to Sex & Safety, and her newest, Unscrewed: Women, Sex, Power & How to Stop Letting the System Screw Us All. Her podcast, also called Unscrewed, is paving new paths to sexual liberation, and was named one of the Best Sex Podcasts by both Marie Claire and Esquire.
As an undergraduate, Jaclyn thought she was too smart to become a victim of sexual assault – until another student proved her wrong. That experience eventually led her to become a student and instructor of IMPACT safety training. At IMPACT, she helped bring safety skills to the communities which most need them, including gang-involved high school students and women transitioning out of abusive relationships.
Friedman’s work has popularized the “yes means yes” standard of sexual consent that is quickly becoming law on many US campuses. In her latest book, Unscrewed, she calls on the movement for women’s sexual liberation to move past individualistic “empowerment” messages (for which she coined the term “fauxpowerment”) to focus on collectively transforming the systems and institutions invested in keeping women sexually servile. Kirkus called it “a potent, convincing manifesto,” and Kate Tuttle, president of the National Book Critics Circle, called it “the book we need right now.”
Friedman is a popular speaker on campuses and at conferences across the U.S. and beyond. She has been a guest on the Today Show, Nightline, PBS News Hour, the Melissa Harris-Perry Show, and numerous other radio and television shows, and her commentary has appeared in outlets including The New York Times, Vox, Time, The Washington Post, Glamour and The Guardian. Friedman is a founder and the former Executive Director of Women, Action & the Media, where she led the successful #FBrape campaign to apply Facebook’s hate-speech ban to content that promotes gender-based violence. Friedman also holds an MFA in creative writing from Emerson College.
SPEECH TITLES AND DESCRIPTIONS
HOW TO HAVE SEX WITHOUT GETTING HURT OR BEING A JERK
Confused about consent? Not sure how to say no, or what you want to say yes to? Can’t imagine how to communicate without killing the mood? In this interactive, Q&A-based session, Friedman starts with the assumption that all of us want to have fun and intimacy on our own terms without hurting anyone else — the rest is details. Students will learn the real meaning of “Yes Means Yes,” discover how to go after what they want in bed while still being a responsible partner, and leave with some tools they can use to leave our sexual world a little better (and hotter) than they found it.
Unscrewed: Women, Sex, Power and How To Stop Letting the System Screw Us All
Much of the anxiety and fear women in our country feel around issues of their sexuality stems from forces that are not their fault, but are side effects of our toxic culture. In what Friedman calls our modern “era of fauxpowerment,” our culture and institutions give women the illusion of sexual power, with very little actual power to support it. Friedman breaks down the causes and signs of fauxpowerment in media, politics, education, religion, and more, giving audiences tools to make positive change toward a culture that supports genuine sexual sovereignty for all.
Sane, Safe, Strong: Creating a Safe and Healthy Sexual Culture for Your Community
Based on her hit book “Yes Means Yes: Visions of Female Sexual Power and a World Without Rape,” she connects the dots between how culture shames women for expressing their sexuality, how the media uses empty images of female sexuality to fuel sales, and how rape is allowed to function in society. Friedman leads an interactive discussion about the ways you and your campus or community can create a culture that makes sexual violence rare, clear and swiftly punished.
Unscrewed: Women, Sex, Power & How to Stop Letting the System Screw Us All
As a veteran feminist and agenda-setting sex educator, Jaclyn Friedman is on the frontlines of the war for equity between the sexes. In Unscrewed, Friedman brings her sharp expertise and incisive observations on the state of sexual politics to the fore, sparking a culture-wide rethink about sex, power and what we accept.
With reportage and verve, Unscrewed builds a searing investigation into the state of sexual power in America, and outlines how to make real progress toward equality. Friedman reveals that the anxiety and fear women in our country feel around issues of their sexuality are not, in fact, their fault, but instead are side effects of what she calls our “era of fauxpowerment,” wherein women have the illusion of sexual power, with no actual power to support it. Exploring the fault lines where media, religion, politics, and education impinge on our intimate lives, Unscrewed breaks down the causes and signs of fauxpowerment, then gives readers tools to take it on themselves.
- Jaclyn is a columnist for Teen Vogue
- ‘Redistributing Sex’ Is a Toxic Conversation About Toxic People” – Motherboard
- The Washington Post published an article telling readers to “Listen to ‘Dear Sugars’: Consent Part 1 — With Jaclyn Friedman“
- “Valentine’s Day Doesn’t Obligate You to Performing Sexual Acts” – Teen Vogue
- Jaclyn’s book, Yes means yes!, was highlighted in a recent article by The Washington Post
- “No, #MeToo is Not Ruining Valentine’s Day” – Huffington Post
- The BadChristian Podcast had Jaclyn as a guest on their episode titled, “Jaclyn Friedman, Sexual Liberation Activist“
- “Locking panties and man-repelling bracelets: Is this what the women of 2018 need?” – The Washington Post
- Featured in the article “How to Date in 2018” by CNN
- “Aziz, We Tried to Warn You” – The New York Times
- Quoted in the article by The New York Times titled, “The ‘Click’ Moment: How the Weinstein Scandal Unleashed a Tsunami“
- Jaclyn discusses how sexual harassment can take place online through social media
- “How demanding female sexual pleasure makes us all better at understanding consent” – Vox.com
- Quoted in The New York Times article, “The #MeToo Moment: What’s Next?“
- “The Problem With ‘New’ Taylor Swift Is That Nothing’s Changed” – Glamour.com
- She recently wrote a piece, Stop Telling Women We Need to Be Saved From Our Sexuality, for TIME’s ideas site Motto
- Jaclyn has been a guest on NPR’s 1A, Philadelphia NPR, and Chicago’s WGN-TV Morning News discussing sexual abuse in Hollywood and the #MeToo campaign.
- She’s been quoted in USAToday.com, Variety.com, and Mic.com, and wrote an original piece for Shonda Rhimes’ site, Shondaland, all mentioning her book Unscrewed.
- Her recent book has been featured by Allure.com, Refinery29, and the popular Call Your Girlfriend podcast.
- Joining a very positive Kirkus review that says, “Friedman scrutinizes the complex historical legacy of sexual dehumanization and the contemporary proliferation of the teenage hookup culture.”
- Her discussion on how the dynamic is changing between men and women in the workplace was featured in The Globe and Mail
- Jaclyn shares her views on what’s missing from sex podcasts at a cultural level and how her book covers those bases