Lux Alptraum

Lux Alptraum
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Lux Alptraum writes about sex, feminism, and pop culture, offering a unique voice shaped by her years of experience as both a sex educator and an adult industry journalist. Her insightful commentary has appeared in publications like The New York Times, Cosmopolitan, SELF, The Atlantic, and Men’s Health, and helped shaped the voice of Fusion’s Sex.Right.Now. As a speaker, Alptraum has given talks and appeared on panels at venues like Harvard, Yale, Brown, Ohio State University, SXSW, and New York City’s Museum of Sex. Her first book, Faking It: The Lies Women Tell About Sex — And The Truths They Reveal will be out fall 2018 from Seal Press.

 

SPEECH TITLES AND DESCRIPTIONS

 

“I’ve Never Done That Before” And Other Lies Women Tell The People We Love

Honesty is supposed to be the best policy. Yet when it comes to our sex lives, many women have a hard time telling our partners the truth about our sexual histories. Whether we’re afraid we’ll be rejected for having too many sex partners or mocked for having too few, many of us would rather lie than fail to live up to our partners’ expectations — even when those expectations are impossible to meet. This talk takes a look at how a mix of purity culture and porn has created an unrealistic idea of what a “normal” woman’s sexual history looks like.
 

Faking It: A Defense of The Inauthentic Orgasm

Fake orgasms get a bad rap. If you believe what you read in lady mags, women who fake it are sad and sexually deprived, more concerned with their partner’s ego than their own sexual pleasure. But what if we have it all wrong? What if faking it isn’t a passive cry for help, but a way of claiming power? This talk discusses the surprising reasons women (and some men!) fake orgasm, taking a look at how our obsession with orgasms might actually be making sex worse.

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MARKETING HIGHLIGHTS

  • Lux Alptraum is a fearless and frequently hilarious guide through the murky waters of 21st-century sexual politics, one who never settles for the easy answers. ‘Faking It’ shows that in sex — as in so much else — what women do matters less than why they do it. — Sady Doyle, author, Trainwreck
  • This is a mind blower of a read. A completely fresh perspective. Necessary, and frankly, highly fucking appreciated. Kudos to Lux Alptraum for igniting this particular rocket. — Jenny Lumet, screenwriter, Rachel Getting Married
  • “What Americans Get Wrong About Porn” – The New York Times